My husband and I just spent $13K doing IVF to try and have a child, and we found out today it didn't work. I had a "chemical pregnancy" which means I was pregnant for about a week and then the embryo died. I am just devastated. We don't really have the money to do IVF again but we probably will. LISTEN, GIRLS do NOT think you can "just have IVF" and have a baby like snapping your fingers when you are older and have an established career! The media lies to us all the time and tells us it's easy, and it's not!! If you are 30 and married, you'd better get busy RIGHT NOW because at 35 you are of "advanced maternal age," meaning it is hard as hell to get pregnant!!! But the media looks at big stars like Geena Davis who have babies when they are in their 40's and make it look easy. (BTW, Geena probably had to have donor eggs instead of using her own is that what you really want? Raising somebody else's kids and paying $20K just to get the eggs?) I am just so mad. I honestly had no idea it was so hard to get pregnant when you are older. My mom always told me "don't get pregnant" meaning when I was 15, of course and now it's so ironic that I can't. Don't be like me, girls. Don't do it when you're 15 (cause it's incredibly hard to raise a kid when you're just a teen yourself), but if you are 30 now, GET MOVING!!!!!! Confess ID: f35eatey        Posted On: 18-Sep-2008